With its soulful music, picturesque locales and a relatable and heart-rending storyline, ‘Dear Zindagi’ is an ode to the wondrous thing called life. It makes you smile, laugh, cry, frown and think, all in a matter of 2 and a half hours. It is like a tight hug, leaving us all warm and fuzzy inside and making our day infinitely better.
Alia Bhatt becomes ‘Kaira’ and stuns with a raw and sublime performance, proving yet again that she is here to stay and slay. And Shah Rukh Khan returns with his dimpled charm (reminding us of the good old Chakde! days), effortlessly pulling off the intellectual and humorous (and handsome) therapist. Once more, Gauri Shinde weaves magic on screen, leaving us spellbound. This film mainly caters to the youth, but holds important life lessons for everyone. It is beautiful, thought provoking and riveting.
Of all the life lessons this cinematic treat has to offer, here are 5 which ought to be imbibed by everyone.
Consulting a psychologist or a psychiatrist in India often stamps a person with the tag of “paagal” or insane, and because of this so many refuse to seek help. Through this movie, Shinde makes an effort to normalise mental problems. ‘Dear Zindagi’, in a light hearted way, emphasizes the fact that it is okay to ask for help, in fact, it is necessary to do so. Having a mental issue is as normal as having a lung infection or a viral fever. Both need attention, care and treatment.
Putting on a smile when we are actually fuming inside or holding back our tears, is not the way to go. Holding in emotions is emotionally and physically unhealthy. It is essential to let go, to breathe and just be. Cry out, shout at the top of your voice, laugh freely, and live. Never repress yourself. Kaira internalises everything till she realises it as the root cause of her problems. Her evolution into a happy and expressive person shows how essential it is to communicate.
Since childhood, we are taught that “if your path is more difficult, it is because your calling is higher” and many more variations of this. We are made to believe that choosing the tough option is always the right thing to do. But it isn’t always so. Why do we have to torture ourselves when sometimes there is an easy route to the destination? Through this gem of a movie, Shinde articulates the beautiful thought that it is okay to sometimes take the simpler path.
- Don’t let society get to you:
“Kuch toh log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kehna.
Chorho bekar ki baaton me, beet na jaye raina.”
What people think about us is not important at all. It is what we think of ourselves that matters. People are going to judge us for the choices we make, our careers, relationships and even our clothes. But their opinions are of no significance. It is our life and our decisions. We are the one that will have to live with these choices, so we should be the one to make them. This film emphasizes just this with Alia Bhatt’s character as an independent cinematographer who despite various objections, continues to shine and ultimately learns to not care about others’ unwanted opinions on her life.
In a country obsessed with arranged marriages, dating is considered to be immoral, cheap, and ‘unsanskari’ especially if one has had multiple relationships. ‘Dear Zindagi’ provides a refreshing take on this aspect by giving an apt analogy of a chair. SRK’s character, in all his witty charm, explains that if we don’t buy any chair without first trying it out, how can we choose a life partner in just one go? Everybody should have the freedom to try out different kursis and choose the one most suitable for them.
Apart from these, Shinde takes subtle jibes at the society’s ignorance on issues of feminism and homosexuality, which are just cherries on top of a well-made cake. Each moment is beguiling and exciting. A well thought out piece, ‘Dear Zindagi’ leaves us smiling and introspecting. A must watch for all.
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A kaleidoscopic swirl of the luminous colours of happiness, adventure, humour, love, friendship and art is basically who I am, along with quite a strong wave of irony. Also, I am having an affair with my tv and a multitide of novels.